Back when I was first taking lessons we had to rotate partners so we'd have the experience of dancing with different people.
When the instructors would demonstrate steps they would have the men stand on once side and the women on the other. The male instructor would demonstrate the man's part and his partner the lady's.
It was a great time to catch up with my friends but I'd often hear about how some of the men didn't like dancing with certain ladies. What these men didn't know or care about was the amount they could learn from these "problem ladies".
If something went wrong while practicing with my partner I would always ask myself, "what could I have done better?". By doing this I naturally learned to be a better dancer and the attitude I presented to my partner was not one of judgement about their skill level.
My friends who said some of the ladies were difficult were not making the ladies feel good about themselves so naturally problems would occur.
I always found that my partners, whether excellent, long-term dancers or rank beginners would always relax when we were together because they knew I truly enjoyed dancing with them and that I never would blame them for a botched dance step.
Whether you are a man or a woman never blame the other person for something that goes wrong on the dance floor. It's counter-productive to learning something about yourself and enjoying your experience.
