Learning to dance takes time, practice, and repetition. Don't initially put any pressure on yourself to lead in the beginning. Discuss what step you're going to work on ... then just practice that step. Then discuss and put one step before or after ... so you're doing two together. Practice that combination before you add another. Then build to have several little combinations. So, for example, in swing: I'd recommend just practicing the basic first. (Also practice from several different directions so when you do go out to dance, it's not unfamiliar. We can get to use to only doing a pattern facing a certain way in a certain room ... then going to a new place seems challenging). Then perhaps do a basic and an underarm turn to the left and right then another basic. Start and stop and start again until you're comfortable repeating things without stopping. Then perhaps work on sugar push building up to include the whole sugar push sequence; again start and stop until you're comfortable repeating the sequence without stopping. Then (first discuss things) lead a basic, the two underarms, a basic to catch the hands, sugar push with the ending ... and then be able to repeat the entire sequence without stopping.
Dancing is a great hobby, wonderful exercise, very worthwhile and something that you can feel an improvement in every year you continue. Be patient with yourself and your partner and have fun.
